George gave little nuggets about marraige on Monday and do you know what my favorite one was?
The statement that "Women are impossible to figure out." is Blasphemous!!!! HURRAYYYY!!!! Do you wanna know why? Because we are wired to let you know everything that is going on in our heads. We're constantly talking and feeling and crying and emotioning. Try not talking to us for one day and we might possibly go crazy! My friends in high school and college would sometimes tease me and challenge me to go 5 minutes without talking... I love challenges and I like to win them. I lost every time. Because even more than loving the challenge, I love to be known and understood and I will do whatever I need to do to be understood. And the best way I know how to be understood is to talk it out.
Men on the other hand, ARE impossible to figure out! Proverbs 20:5 "The purpose of a man's heart is like deep waters". They are the ones who can sit cool as a cucumber while fuming, worrying, fearing beneath the surface and not a soul could know it!
I thought this was revolutionary:)
So he gave us guides:
L: Lose your life Eph 5:24-26 25 "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
--To be an excellent husband and father , a man must lose his life. Just as Christ says, "In order to find your life, you must lose it." What does it look like to lose your life? Possibly putting away your hobbies, extracurricular, your boats, bikes, big houses, tv's, video gaming systems... anything that takes away from the time needed to spend getting to know, studying and spending time with wives and children and most of all studying and spending time getting to know and understand God's will.
O: Observe her carefully 1 Peter 3:7 : "Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered."
--Again, women are open books. If you study your wife, you will know what makes her tick, what makes her mad, what her day was like, how she's feeling, etc, etc. Just study!
V: Value her above all else Prov 31:10 "Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies."
--Yup, we're valuable:)
E: Express affection that is due her. 1Cor 7: 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.
--What is sex? It is an expression of affection. It's not about performance or pleasure but about affection. What is affection? The spontaneous expression of love.
George encouraged the ladies of our class to pray for a man who will live according to the will of God. And what woman would not want a man who treats her as above? No matter what he might look like on the outside.
So then for the women:
He started with the "T". Trust which is the basis of submission.
S: Self initiated-No one can force me to submit. The word says "Wives submit to your husbands" it does not say husbands you should make your wives submit!
U: Unconditional Trust- We have to trust him with ourselves, our lives, our families
B: Beautiful- This trust and submission causes beauty. A woman who is L.O.V.E.D. and in turn S.U.B.M.I.T. does not carry the weight of carrying the responsibility of the world and the marraige. We were not meant to carry that weight. So a woman who is secure in her relationship with her husband radiates beauty.
I: Intimate- The trust is intimate
T: Trust- The basis of submission 1 Peter 3:1-6 Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 5 For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.
The husband is called the head of the marraige. What is the head? It is the brain. The place where information is processed. So information is given from the wife, from the Word and from the husband himself which is then processed so that the husband can make the best decision for the body.
God did not create women to carry the weight of the stress of marraige. It is the privilege and responsibility of men.
Also, in regards to parenting... no where in the Bible does it ever talk about women raising, disciplining, teaching the children. The job and responsibility of raising children fall on men if we live biblically! The woman is the helper in raising the children, but again, the responsibility falls to the men.
Wow. It makes me SO SO glad that I'm not a man. And so SO concerned about the mixed signals men get from women, our society, the media, the church, etc.